Stress Management through Worry Management

We worry too much, don’t we? “What happened yesterday?”, “What will happen tomorrow?” “Why me?” In the “Whats” and “Whys” of our life, we are losing precious time of today. Yesterday is the history, tomorrow is the mystery but today is a gift, that’s why it’s called present.

There is a very fine line of division between worrying and reflection. It is definitely good to go back in past and remember the moments of delight and happiness. Reflection is when I am free from the negative effects of past and I only ponder on memories which are good.


This brings us to worry versus reflection. Worrying is when you dwell in ugly past and express remote over things you cannot change, feel the pain of yesteryears and get bitter. You know it is not useful but you like to do that because you are so much blinded by your habits. To think something negative also sometimes gives a pleasant feeling, isn’t it?


The times are changing. Global warming, nuclear weapons and natural calamities are increasing. Aren’t you getting the message of time? Change yourself before it gets too late. Change the way you think, speak and act, for even a thought is an act. If I change, the whole world is bound to change with me. I know where I am wrong and I have to control my stress and my habit to worry all the time. Any moment can be my last moment; I want to live a perfect life before that moment comes, so that I know I lived better life than millions of other people on this earth!

Spiritual Quotient Learning III

Ask anyone what is spirituality and they will talk about religion. What is the difference between religion and spirituality, no one would know.


Our life has become so unpredictable but does that mean we also have to be? Spiritual quotient is all about knowing what we don’t know existed and implementing changes in life, the changes that will make us a better person, more humane. In other words, we can also call it changing the unpredictable in us to something more regular.


Spiritual quotient means not becoming sad due to small disruptions but be in a position to ‘see the bigger picture’, altering our whole perspective towards life and then helping others in doing that. Life is beautiful because I am!

Let’s today.......

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  Take out a minute to run from fear
  
  
  
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  Tell our loved ones how much we adore them
  
  
  
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  Smile at every neighbour we see
  
  
  
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  Take an appointment with ourselves to sit in peace for 10 minutes
  
  
  
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  Call our parents and enquire if they have been keeping well
  
  
  
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  Promise to help a human being in need today
  
  
  
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  Make our life’s best day!
  
  
  

Trust your Guts

People like to take others opinion when they start something new. Many often feel dejected on receiving criticism. The founders of Google tried to sell their patented technology for $1 million. Everyone they approached passed on their offer – companies didn't get the chance to connect with the opportunity. They failed to see The Bigger Picture of how search engines would shape up the technology of tomorrow. However the founders did not give up and result is in front of us – who doesn’t know Google today? It is worth a cool $141 billion today.


It is high time that we start trusting our guts. Practise listening to your heart and then follow it. Don’t get too much used to taking the easy way out, raise up to the kind of person you would like to be. There are people like Nelson Mandela and Gandhi who resisted the way things were and trusted their guts to take forward the light of hope. This world wasn't put together by people with small vision and minor thoughts. It was built by the eccentrics like Einstein and oddballs who had the courage to passionately follow their dreams. So what are you waiting for? Each of us has desires to be a better human being and to be a part of a wonderful tomorrow. Let’s start today on the beautiful path in pursuit of doing something great.

ATOZ... FOR LIFE

A--Accept

Accept others for who they are and for the choices they've made even if you have difficulty understanding their beliefs, motives, or actions.



B--Break Away

Break away from everything that stands in the way of what you hope to accomplish with your life.



C--Create

Create a family of friends whom you can share your hopes, dreams, sorrows, and happiness with.



D--Decide

Decide that you'll be successful and happy come what may, and good things will find you. The roadblocks are only minor obstacles along the way.



E--Explore

Explore and experiment. The world has much to offer, and you have much to give. And every time you try something new, you'll learn more about yourself.



F--Forgive

Forgive and forget. Grudges only weigh you down and inspire unhappiness and grief. Soar above it, and remember that everyone makes mistakes.



G--Grow

Leave the childhood monsters behind. They can no longer hurt you or stand in your way.



H--Hope

Hope for the best and never forget that anything is possible as long as you remain dedicated to the task.



I--Ignore

Ignore the negative voice inside your head. Focus instead on your goals and remember your accomplishments. Your past success is only a small inkling of what the future holds.



J--Journey

Journey to new worlds, new possibilities, by remaining open-minded. Try to learn something new every day, and you'll grow.



K--Know

Know that no matter how bad things seem, they'll always get better. The warmth of spring always follows the harshest winter.



L--Love

Let love fill your heart instead of hate. When hate is in your heart, there's room for nothing else, but when love is in your heart, there's room for endless happiness.



M--Manage

Manage your time and your expenses wisely, and you'll suffer less stress and worry. Then you'll be able to focus on the important things in life.



N--Notice

Never ignore the poor, infirm, helpless, weak, or suffering. Offer your assistance when possible, and always your kindness and understanding.



O--Open

Open your eyes and take in all the beauty around you. Even during the worst of times, there's still much to be thankful for.



P--Play

Never forget to have fun along the way. Success means nothing without happiness.



Q--Question

Ask many questions, because you're here to learn. We Learn By Doing, And Teach By Being.



R--Relax

Refuse to let worry and stress rule your life, and remember that things always have a way of working out in the end.



S--Share

Share your talent, skills, knowledge, and time with others. Everything that you invest in others will return to you many times over.



T--Try

Even when your dreams seem impossible to reach, try anyway. You'll be amazed by what you can accomplish.



U--Use

Use your gifts to your best ability. Talent that's wasted has no value. Talent that's used will bring unexpected rewards.



V--Value

Value the friends and family members who've supported and encouraged you, and be there for them as well.



W--Work

Work hard every day to be the best person you can be, but never feel guilty if you fall short of your goals. Every sunrise offers a second chance.



X--X-Ray

Look deep inside the hearts of those around you and you'll see the goodness and beauty within.



Y--Yield

Yield to commitment. If you stay on track and remain dedicated, you'll find success at the end of the road.



Z--Zoom
Have a bigger prespective of life

Food for thought

I met a middle aged couple, both of them serving at the board positions in different countries. Loved their zest for work and life. The way they truly love and repect each other is remarkable. They have a wonderful aura of positivity around them and its difficult not to get impressed my them. I asked them what their secret was and they replied

"When making your choice in life, do not neglect to live".

Beautiful!

Thought Conditioning And Stress Management

Why do we feel stressed? Why sometimes there is a sudden desire of shouting on someone to tell people that I am right and they are wrong? Why sometimes motivation from life suddenly disappears?

The answer lies in thoughts and their conditioning. Thought power drives us, makes us feel delighted or saddens us. When something happens according to us, our thoughts condition the mind to feel happy. If someone says something to us that we don’t like, our thoughts start to run with such a speed that it usually gives us a headache.

Motivation is a very refined feeling of thoughts when your mind programming becomes positive. One of the most successful ways of doing that is to meditate. It now only calms our mind but also puts a brake on our thoughts which otherwise just flow unconditionally. By the way, do you know that on an average how many thoughts come into our mind in a day? 25,000 – 30,000. Amazed?

A Beautiful Quote on Quality

While working yesterday, my husband said a very funny liner on 'Quality at Work' that I'd like to share with you all

"Quality involves both heart and mind – one drives you ahead, the other keeps you kind."

Stress Management

I had a chance to speak at a conference today which was full of working professionals, age group 20- 50 years. Hearing them discuss the issues of their companies, teams, products, deadlines, meetings and God knows what else; it was worth noticing that how individuals are shaping the future of organizations. The surprise element was however the stress level that each of them carried. Almost each of them reported problems of constant headache, blood pressure or high temperament.

Stress is a silent killer, it kills without warning. Don’t forget that “stress is not what happens to us. It is our response TO what happens, and RESPONSE is something we can choose.” When you find yourself stressed, ask yourself one question: Will this matter in 5 years from now? If yes, then do something about the situation. If no, then let it go.

Winters & me!

Winters are setting in here at India. I love this weather mainly because the sky is clear and it’s also the time of planting flowers. From November to March, things are beautiful here. We go out for long walks every morning just to see who is growing what. There is a unspoken competition among all the residents on whose flowers are the best.

I love the way air smells and the beds of different coloured pansies. I grow them every year to remind myself of the vibrant life that we all are given. See your daily living as a sketch book, and on whom does it depend to make it colourful? YOU!